We're so sorry you're going through this and you're not alone. Situations like this are emotionally difficult, especially when someone you love feels deeply connected to the person on the other side of the screen.
Helping people break free from the emotional pull of scams is one of the main reasons we built Backgrounder.
Getting started with support:
A good first step is to create a Backgrounder account and choose a Family Plan when they become available, depending on how much support you need. Our security researchers are trained to help people gently understand when an online relationship isn’t what it seems—without shaming, pressure, or confrontation.
Romance scams often start slowly and feel genuine at first. Over time, scammers build trust, create emotional dependence, and introduce urgency or secrecy. We help bring clarity to what's happening, so families can have informed, supportive conversations and decide what to do next together. We will offer remediation guidance and help think through asset protection.
Additional resources for victims and families:
If your loved one has already sent money or is experiencing emotional distress:
- Give an Hour offers free mental health support for victims of financial fraud, including romance scams, and peer support groups for both victims and families: Emotional & Psychological Impacts of Financial Fraud
- AARP Fraud Watch Network Helpline provides free support, guidance, and fraud reporting at 1-877-908-3360 or online: Report Fraud to AARP
- National Elder Care Coordination Center
Need help right away?
If you’re unsure how to start or need immediate guidance, our team is here to walk you through the process and connect you with the right support. Contact us at support@backgrounder.com.